A happy marriage can begin with a list of date night ideas that you turn into a series of romantic dates with your spouse. That’s right, you can rekindle the romance in your marriage with a regularly scheduled date night with your mate.
It is a fact that couples who nurture their relationships through regular date nights tend to have long, very happy marriages. This is particularly true for couples who have kids that are active in sports and other school activities. If these parents don’t set aside time just for themselves then their marriage could lose its excitement very quickly. Debbie and I experienced this firsthand a few years ago. Couples constantly on the go need to slow down every so often and spend quality time alone with their spouse.
While there are a lot of great books, articles and other resources available to help couples come up with date night ideas, there is one resource that has really taken the marriage date night concept to a whole another level. I am talking about David and Claudia Arp’s “10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage”. It offers a series of ten date nights designed to help marriage partners rekindle the passion in their marriage. Earlier this year, they updated and expanded this best-selling book. It will help you bring back the adventure in your marriage with ten innovative dates each with proven conversation prompts based on eye-opening themes.
Obviously, Debbie and I are big fans because, like the Arps, we share a passion for helping couples build great marriages through fun, relationship-building dates. In 1983, the Arps started their Marriage Alive ministry to help couples re-connect with their mate through simple dates that focus on different aspects like communication, intimacy and other key areas of a healthy relationship.
Their first book, “Ten Dates for Mates”, a Gold-Medallion finalist, launched them on their path to helping couples grow together by dating each other like they did as young singles. Their “10 Great Dates” brand of resources are respected and used nationally and internationally.
The “10 Great Dates” book and program offers plenty of date night ideas. It also has some very specific things each couple must follow for a successful, enriching experience.
Here are the fundamental things you need to do for a Great Date Night:
Schedule the time and place for your personal date.
Put it on your calendar in ink. You don’t want to erase it from your agenda. You make these dates a priority. Do not let things keep you from having these date nights.
Anticipate your date with your partner.
Like a young couple going out on their first date, you need to share your excitement with your mate. A little note or text to your spouse sharing your anticipation will go a long way. Let them know how excited you are about being alone with them.
Leave the kids and problems out for this one night
You don’t want use your quiet time together to talk about problems with the kids, work or home. You need to be talking about fun things, including your dreams for the future. Make this a special night that you both will remember for a long time.
Be affectionate with your mate.
Do those things that you did when you first started dating in the early years. You know, things like holding hands, flirting with your mate and kissing them with unbridled passion. No reason to hold anything back on these special date nights because if your passion gets out of control then you can head home a cap off the night by sharing the ultimate expression of love. That would be a perfect ending to the night.
Don’t stop with one great date, repeat it often.
As soon as you finish your first great date, schedule the next one. If you can do one every week that would be great, but many couples can only do a date night every couple of weeks. No matter how often you can go out, come up with some new date night ideas.
You can keep or rekindle the romance in your marriage with a regularly scheduled date night with your spouse. Start by making a list of date night ideas then go to work on making each one happen. Before long, you and your partner might be calling each other Soul Mates like Debbie and I have for many years.